Do you really want a life of nothing?

Your quality of life depends on the influence you have on your life.

Broadly, the idea of 'influence' people have is either forcing their authority on someone to make them do something or judging their own capacity to induce a change in somebody else. Fortunately, both are untrue as what we spoke above is called outward focus, and what influence actually is an inward focus.

How did we get to that? Let me present to you my own testimony. As Stephen R.Covey says,

We are not a product of our circumstances we are the product of our decisions

The circle of influence is positive because you are operating from having control over things or, having control over the outcomes of the things whereas the circle of concern is the place that you have no control over. So, if you are worried about it for days, months, or years. You will have years slip by feeling victim and you will become older soon because you are operating from the wrong place. You are trying to have control over things, you have no control over.

There is a way to move forward from the circle of concern to the circle of influence, that is when I had challenges I first relaxed, sat with my mentor, and thought through them. By asking questions and looking for solutions, you can always find ways to directly or indirectly control the outcomes For instance, if you are trying to convince others to validate as what you are doing is right, so that you can commit to something and get convicted on something, it's never going to happen. Rather you become committed and convicted on building something based on the facts, then others will realize its worth based on your conviction. Another one is if you are concerned about what your friends/others would feel or think about you? You are talking about an arena you have no control over. You might have to think like, you do nothing you be nothing so you end up nothing, in order to have no criticism against you. Do you really want a life of nothing? Successful people realize if it's inside the circle of control or not. If not they don't spend their energy on it. How I think about myself is more important than others and the moment you are criticizing yourself for your failures, remember you are talking from the circle of concern that you have no control over. Hope this added a bright light to your thought process.